"Im not gonna sugar coat this at all: If you want to break up with him, just do it. It takes a certain kind of person to deal with lonely nights, days without communication, and never seeing your S/O months at a time. Obviously I think it was really shitty to wait until he was in bootcamp. You knew he was leaving. But a relationship should be two people who WANT to be together. Let him go so he has time to heal and find someone else and you can do the same."