2 (2): I mean, if he was home most of the time but had a 6 month deployment every few years I could handle that. But I can’t handle never seeing him. Being pregnant and having a baby alone. It hurts too much to be away from him. What do I do? idk i’m just so confused right now and idk what to do. Please help!!

I think it’s good that you are thinking about all of this before putting it all aside and jumping right into it! The best think you can do in my opinion is talk to him. Tell him you support him but you don’t know how well you’ll be able to handle these things. He may be upset at first, and it may take a thousand attempts before he’ll actually sit down and talk to you about it.. but he needs to know, he deserves to know, and you deserve to tell him! It’s not impossible though, so if you decided to go through with it, you’ve got it! and you’ll be okay! You have plenty of people who will back you up and be there for you while he can’t be. Just remember you have this WHOLE community to help you through it, and I’m here to talk as much as you need it. If you ever need anything feel free to private message me on here or my more personal tumblr. (amarinesgirl33) I wish you the best of luck. (:

I would talk to him about it and tell him it’s unacceptable to have a female roommate just because he is getting lonely…. Darling, you deserve better than that. Honestly, that’s such a low blow to me, and it kind of breaks my heart… He made a commitment in this relationship, to be loyal to you, not to sneak around and live with another girl, then make excuses just so you accept it and so he has a reason to not feel guilty.. I also think you should rethink your situation before you move forward. Why would you stick around with someone who is bluntly cheating/sneaking/fooling around, when you could be with someone who loves you unconditionally. I’m not trying to offend you, this just upsets me. I hope things get better, and I’m always here to talk <3

This is just my opinion.. but I really don’t think you should be with someone who is going to cheat on you.. or even give the option of cheating a chance. I guess it was nice of him to tell you, rather than hiding it.. but I feel like if you are planning on getting married and having a baby.. you shouldnt just tell someone you’re going to cheat on them. I don’t think he’s ready for it, at all. Whatever you do is completely up to you.. but I would definitely rethink the situation you’re in before you move forward.

I’m not married yet, so I’m not really the person to ask, but I’m sure plenty of people will send me messages answering the question, so look out for answers. I’ve seen people get married in a courthouse in jeans and a tee, and others in a sundress. The rest is up to everyone else to answer! Sorry I don’t know that much about it!

Here are answers some laddies have left me! I’ll leave their username so you can contact them if you wish! Good luck on your wedding!

We had one. Take an ID, probably SS card & birth certificate, a marriage license (which you can get at the “courthouse” or wherever the issue them in your county), money to pay for the services, and someone to marry you, like a judge. There may be a waiting period. CALL DOWNTOWN AND ASK. It will save you so much time instead of trying to google it. You can wear whatever you want, you can take whatever you want. They usually have people there that can be witnesses but you can bring your own.(mrsnationalguard)
About the anon and the courthouse wedding and ceremony later; I’ve also done such, just not the actual wedding yet. But at the courthouse i looked cutesy and whatnot in jeans and a dressy shirt and my husband was in his uniform; but I saw many couples wear as formal as wedding dresses. And make sure you have an extra 20$ to make official copies of the marriage certificate for yourself and husband to prove your marriage when getting set up with everything in the military being his wife. Its nothi(deepwithintheocean)
My hubby and I had our courthouse wedding first too, it was pretty simple. We got married in San Francisco City Hall, which is really scenic and people go to take real wedding pics there, though, he was in his Class A’s and I had my long white dress and bouquet. We went first early in the morning to get our marriage license in sweatpants, though! We dressed up and all for the actual ceremony.(vickytorious) 

I’ve been gone for a little, my fiance was home for the past two weeks for leave and I felt that it was necessary to take some time off the internet and enjoy him being home. I had a wonderful Christmas with his family and was blessed I got to spend it with him. We parted the other day, he went back to California and I came back home. There is a chance that i wont see him until next November, which made it a very bittersweet goodbye. 

I thought of you all over the two weeks and wanted to wish you all a Merry Christmas, and happy holidays. I hope that you got to spend time with your family and loved ones! Whether your SO was home or not, I hope you all at least got a letter, skype conversation, text, or phone call from the one who is far away.

I want you to thank everyone for me who you know who puts their life on the line and protects my family and I so that I can have an amazing Christmas

I also want to thank all of YOU guys, the girls and guys, husbands and wives, moms and dads, sisters and brothers, boyfriends and girlfriends, fiances, the people left behind, for being the AMAZING people you all are. You all have gotten through the hollidays with or without your other half, and you are now ONE day closer to being with them again. Holding their hand again. Kissing them again. And one day closer to spending the rest of your life with them!

I love you all, I’ll be answering some questions and look out for more confessions. If you have any pictures you want to submit feel free to put them in my inbox!

XOXOXO-Sare

I would do something between the both of you but not something over the top. Just remember that he’s probably going to be tired and a little overwhelmed. I think it would be nice if you hung him a banner outside the house or something and have a on antic dinner date out or at home and spend the night watching movies and enjoying each others time. I hope I helped some!!

I think you should try to stay calm and not freak out until you actually get that bad response. They may not flip out at all, it may go over well.. you never know until it happens. Don’t stress, just keep yourself happy and as stress-free as you can be! 

Has anyone been in this situation and want to share a few words??

Confession #579: I’ve waited for you through your entire deployment. Don’t get me wrong, I’m so happy you’re about to come home safely.. but it kills me knowing that when you come home, you’re not coming home to me. I don’t want to watch you with anyone else.

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Confession #578: I’m scared wail my airman is deployed he will cheat on me. But I have a reason to, hes never done anything to make me not trust him or question his ability to stay faithful. But after seeing it happen to so many other SOs I just can’t help but be afraid. I love him and would never do anything to hurt him. I just don’t want to be made the fool.

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Confession #577: this past week was the most wonderful time of my life, even though i only get to see him 10 days out of the year, we make those days count. i am so proud of him, and i love that he enjoys his job. i just wish we could relive those 10 days forever. 

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