Thanks for your kind a beautiful words towards our anon. I’m sorry both of you and many others are going through this, it breaks my heart. -Magdielis
I’m not sure if you wanted this to be a confession.. but I’m going to make it into one. I am so very sorry for your loss. I can’t describe the feeling in my stomach when I read this. I could say sorry over and over and over again and it wouldn’t amount to how i feel about this situation. I hope you realize your worth and strength and it hurts so badly to hear you say you wish you were the one that was dead. I want you to know that I admire your strength to overcome this situation and I hope you continue to do so for the rest of your life. I hope I don’t offend you by saying this, but, you will get your homecoming one day, it may be prolonged, waited on, and later than you wanted, hoped, and wished for; but one day you will meet again, and it will be a homecoming. Please stay strong, and know that I’m here to talk whenever, anon or not. I will be thinking about you.
Tell him tell him tell him! Tell him you know it’ll be hard, you know it’ll be crapy, you know it’ll be different than any other relationship you have, but let him know that it’ll be worth it. You never know what you’re capable of until you try it. if it fails, hey, you tried right? I used to say i would NEVER EVER be able to do what I do now. It’s hard being away from someone you love, but it gets a bit easier, you get used to it. You just have to focus on your life as well. If you’re great together now, you’ll be even more great when you get the chance to experience a relationship like this. You will love deeper, appreciate more, and come out stronger!!
I’ve never got a question like this before, and I’ve never thought about it from your point of view too much. To be honest with you, I try not to.. I understand where you’re coming from, even more now that Ian has been deployed and changed a lot while he was there. Its like two sides to the person.. What I try my hardest to do, and encourage you to do, is, look at it like a job. you have a job, you have a job life and a home life. you probably mostly keep your work life and your home life separate. Try to allow her and work with her to keep her work life and home life separate. Although it seems easy, its not. Perhaps counseling would be good to talk it out or come up with different options together as to how to work on this. Its very difficult loving someone with a difficult and hard to understand job. I’m sorry if this isn’t too helpful. Just know that I’m always here to talk and I’m wishing the best for you and your wife!!
Truth is, the military doesn’t make everything different. People just choose to believe that it does, or feel that it does. If you’re not ready, then you are not ready. Thats not an issue or a problem or something you should be worried about at ALL. I have a huge amount of respect that you are honest enough to know that you aren’t ready. I think you need to sit down and talk with him and tell him you want it at some point in your life, but not right now. the military only makes it different if you allow it to! Do not feel forced or obligated to do this, do it when you’re ready or it won’t feel right!!
I totally understand why you would be nervous of her being treated differently. The whole situation is rather nerve-wrecking. I do know a few people in same-sex relationships that went through boot camp, and i haven’t heard of any bad stories or anyone being treated differently. I have a few friends who have been in for awhile now and they don’t get treated differently either! I think she will do great and be fine! Both of you stay strong!!
I’m not sure if this is a question or a confession. but if it is a confession just message me back and I’ll make it for you! I’m really sorry about everything going on with your family. I understand that you don’t want to add more stress on him since he is in hell week. Maybe you can hold off until things have settled down for him a little and THEN update him on whats going on, let him know you didnt tell him right away because you wanted him to be focused on his job. You are right, you do need support, and letting him know whats going on is NOT complaining, sometimes you need someone to talk to, and thats completely 100% okay!
Hello! I totally understand where you’re coming from, but don’t worry. I’ve been with Ian for almost three years and there are still PLENTY of things that I don’t know or understand about his job. I’m ALWAYS asking Ian different things, even if they sound stupid. Lucky for us gals, if you’re on tumblr, you can easy head over to some blogs and ask anonymously! I will link some great tumblrs that have awesome information to help.
- http://militarysisterhood.tumblr.com/ (I run this blog with 14+ other girls, there are all branches on there and they put out some AWESOME information and always give honest answers to any asks!)
- http://milsotherapy.tumblr.com/ (They have a TON of information on their site, and they are always answering and updating!)
Here are some actual websites!
http://www.usmchangout.com/military/branches/usmc/facts/jarheadjargon.htm#.U9EwgONdVU4 (not sure how legit this is, but USMC has a lot of different “lingo” they call Jarhead, its nice to understand this after your man is a Marine)
I hope I helped you out!!
**If anyone has any websites or blogs to recommend, put it in the ask and I will add it to the list!!**