I totally understand why you would be nervous of her being treated differently. The whole situation is rather nerve-wrecking. I do know a few people in same-sex relationships that went through boot camp, and i haven’t heard of any bad stories or anyone being treated differently. I have a few friends who have been in for awhile now and they don’t get treated differently either! I think she will do great and be fine! Both of you stay strong!!
I’m not sure if this is a question or a confession. but if it is a confession just message me back and I’ll make it for you! I’m really sorry about everything going on with your family. I understand that you don’t want to add more stress on him since he is in hell week. Maybe you can hold off until things have settled down for him a little and THEN update him on whats going on, let him know you didnt tell him right away because you wanted him to be focused on his job. You are right, you do need support, and letting him know whats going on is NOT complaining, sometimes you need someone to talk to, and thats completely 100% okay!
Hello! I totally understand where you’re coming from, but don’t worry. I’ve been with Ian for almost three years and there are still PLENTY of things that I don’t know or understand about his job. I’m ALWAYS asking Ian different things, even if they sound stupid. Lucky for us gals, if you’re on tumblr, you can easy head over to some blogs and ask anonymously! I will link some great tumblrs that have awesome information to help.
- http://militarysisterhood.tumblr.com/ (I run this blog with 14+ other girls, there are all branches on there and they put out some AWESOME information and always give honest answers to any asks!)
- http://milsotherapy.tumblr.com/ (They have a TON of information on their site, and they are always answering and updating!)
Here are some actual websites!
http://www.usmchangout.com/military/branches/usmc/facts/jarheadjargon.htm#.U9EwgONdVU4 (not sure how legit this is, but USMC has a lot of different “lingo” they call Jarhead, its nice to understand this after your man is a Marine)
I hope I helped you out!!
**If anyone has any websites or blogs to recommend, put it in the ask and I will add it to the list!!**
oh wow.. Thats a lot to deal with. I’m very sorry that you’re going through this. Well, I would confront him (if you haven’t already) I’d try to keep my cool, although… I can understand how hard that would be. I would lay the line on the ground and tell him that he CAN NOT do that. you are married, you have vowes, a promised life together. That is cheating, whether he wants to believe it or not… I would ask of him that he doesn’t go back. Depending on how you feel about it you could try to put it in the past and work towards a better time in your marriage, but you NEED to let him know you’re serious, that he can’t do this. I’m very sorry that you’re going through this again, and I’m always here to talk if you need to. I hope I helped a bit.
I’m sure school is pretty tough on him, a lot of studying and change of pace. But its normal to miss and want to talk to him. I think by asking him to call AFTER he was studying was completely okay. Instead of being mad try to confront it in a different manner, maybe “hey, I miss you a lot and I’d really appreciate if we could have a conversation when you aren’t busy, its been awhile since we talked” explain that you just want to talk when he’s done studying and you aren’t demanding a two hour conversation. Communication is key. Good luck!!
That’s really difficult, it was almost there and then they took it away. :/ I’m really sorry you’re feeling down about this. The good thing is, is that you will be able to have phone calls and skype and see/talk to him a little more now! It’ll make the next five months fly by! Don’t compare yourself to other military wives, we all have different experiences, and you’re new to this! A lot of people get to see their loved one after boot. This is one challenge that you WILL overcome. Good luck!! You both will make it through this together!